This is a wonderful and delightful audio-book that captures the struggles and successes of one family s journey to help a troubled child that leads to their adopting him. The book consists of a series of letters between the mother of Jonathan, Lori, and a sensitive, thoughtful, and astute professional, Michael, who provides support, ideas, and information to her. Michael is helpful to Lori by providing support and knowledge, without becoming the family's therapist; they already have one. For example, when Lori writes a letter about Jonathan's crazy lies, Michael responds with the very helpful perspective that the child may actually have problems with cause-effect thinking so that, "But the very ridiculousness of it does raise the specter that the child honestly doesn't see things the way the rest of us do." It is this ability to reframe behaviors in a way that helps Lori to feel differently and then act differently that is so valuable about Michael s support. This book will be of value to both parents and professionals. It is touching, moving, and inspirational. As a professional, the book highlights how therapeutic and important it is to provide support for families. The book can serve as a model for how professionals can help families even when (or especially when) the professional is not providing psychotherapy. Professionals will find a wealth of useful information and material to use with families. Families will find a wealth of information and material to help them in their journey. In our practice we are now routinely giving this book to families. The feedback we have gotten is uniformly positive, with families reporting that they don t feel so alone; they feel empowered. Arthur Becker-Weidman, Ph.D |
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